CHOICES is a column for young people. It involves challenging issues where someone is asking for possible solutions. Readers, it’s great for practicing your decision-making skills. As you think over the various ideas suggested and choose what you would do, you’re practicing. You can even add more whammy by discussing choices with another person. Other ideas will probably come up, ones you just hadn’t seen. Have fun!
Now, let’s look at today’s issue. It has to do with not taking any action after being called a bad name. You can read about possible solutions that have already been suggested by youngsters at The Boys’ and Girls’ Club of Lakewood. They’re right below the situation.
Today, I was called a bad name by two friends. It hurt my feelings. I didn’t do anything to stop them so I’m worried that they’ll keep doing this to me.
You could do several things:
1. Tell your friends to stop.
2. Ignore your friends.
3. Get away from these friends.
4. Tell your family at home.
5. Tell the teacher.
I think you could tell a grown-up, walk away, make a deal, ignore them, or tell them to stop. You could maybe try some of these strategies. They might help you. They helped me.
If someone keeps telling you something like you’re ugly and he’s getting on your nerves, just talk to them and say, “Can you please stop?” If they keep doing it the next day, tell a guardian and then later talk to them and say you’re sorry.
You should tell an adult that you trust. You should not be friends with them.
You should walk away.
You should talk to them about the incident and tell your friends to stop calling you names. If that doesn’t work, then you should tell the teacher. If that doesn’t work, you should not be their friends anymore or not talk to them for a while. You could also walk away and go to something else. Or, ignore them if they call you names again.
You could go tell a teacher or your parents and tell them what those kids did to you. Tell them that you think they might do it again.
You can ask them to say they’re sorry. If they don’t say sorry, it can be a concern (a problem-solving strategy used in some classrooms).
You have a problem with your friends. But you can talk it out.
Your friends are calling you names. I think you should wait until the next time is happens. You can tell them how you feel when it happens again.
You could handle it by telling them to stop. If they don’t stop, tell the teacher.
You should tell them to stop and ask them why they are picking on you.
You could say, “I didn’t like it when you called me a name.”
You should tell a teacher right away before it happens again. Or, you would not be happy at all.
You should go tell the principal.
What could you do? You could tell the boys that are calling you names to stop.
TALKING IT OVER
First of all, thanks to those who submitted solutions. Great job! Readers, what do you think you’d do in this situation? Here are some points to think about while you decide. Try talking with a trusted friend or adult about your choice. Remember, practice makes you better at making choices.
1. Would you talk to the friends who called you a name or to an adult first? Why?
2. When would you not let a friend know your feelings were hurt?
3. Should you keep doing nothing until the situation happens a second time? Why or why not?
4. What would you do if you had done something to upset your friends and that was why they were calling you a name?
SUBMIT YOUR SOLUTION
If you’d like to suggest an idea for Tyrell to try, email to email@example.com. Or, if you have an issue you’d like others to help solve, go to the same email address to submit it. See you next time!
Copyright 2008 Doris Hudson