CHOICES is a column for young people. The focus is on practicing decision-making. In each column a situation appears together with several suggested solutions. Readers can look these over to see which ideas fit for them and which ones they’d change. Automatically, they’re practicing decision-making. This is especially true when readers talk over ideas with another person. It’s learning while having fun!
I am in a group of girls who share math homework answers each morning before school. I don’t remember how I got into this group, but I’m feeling it’s the wrong thing to do. I’m not understanding the work much anymore. How do I get out of this group without making my friends feel guilty for staying in?
You could say, “I don’t understand this work and I want to leave this group.” Or, tell your parents that you want to leave the group because you don’t understand the work.
Go to your parents for advice. Then do the right thing and do your homework on your own. Encourage the others to do the same. Or, just walk away from the group.
You can tell your parents that you thought this was an educational group, but it turned out bad. To get it out to the group, you can just say, “I quit this group, girls.” Or, just walk away. That’s what I would do.
You can just say, “I don’t want to do this anymore.”
You can quit the groups. How you can get out is to walk out.
You can do your own homework by yourself.
To get out of the group, just tell the girls that you want to have a life without cheating.
Here are some things you need to think about.
- You’re breaking the rules (by copying answers).
- You don’t feel good about what you’re doing.
- You probably don’t feel smart.
- Your next teacher will think you’re smart by the grades you’d get.
- Cheating isn’t good.
You need to think about who’s affected by staying in the group. There’s your teacher, next year’s teacher, you, and the other girls in the group. Just leave and say, “I’m leaving. Don’t hinder me.”
Don’t be in that group anymore.
Your problem is that you’re failing math. You also aren’t telling your mom the truth.
Tell the girls, “I don’t think this sharing will make us any smarter in math. So, we shouldn’t do this anymore.
Just don’t go near those girls and tell them it’s not the right thing to do.
The problem is that you’re doing the wrong thing by sharing answers. You should just not come near those girls. Also, tell them it’s not the right thing to do.
You are cheating and breaking the rules. That’s why you don’t feel good. Think about how dumb you will be in math next year.
TALKING IT OVER
First of all, a big thank you goes to those who submitted solutions for Stacy to try. Now readers, did you find some ideas that you would use to solve this problem? Do you have any other ideas that might work? Talk it over with someone you know. Here are some points you might want to consider.
- Who is affected by the sharing of answers (cheating)? How?
- If Stacy cannot do the homework anymore, what can she do to get help?
SUBMIT YOUR SOLUTION
If you’d like to suggest other ideas for Stacy to try, email c/o The Suburban Times at firstname.lastname@example.org. Or if you have a situation you’d like others to help solve, go to this same email address to submit it. CHOICES–it’s all about working together to make better decisions.
Copyright 2008 Doris Hudson
To read more about Choices and its author, click here.
To read past columns:
- Being made fun of, or not performing well
- Having a friend cheat off your test
- Arguing with a friend
- Name calling
- Not getting along
- I spoke up, but nothing happened