Kid-to Kid is all about kids helping each other. Each month, a school-related problem will appear in this space. Youngsters just like you can respond by sending in possible solutions. What’s fun is getting together or calling someone you know to discuss the solutions you read here. You may find that you also come up with other ideas on how to solve the problem. Enjoy!
Note to Parents and Grandparents: Did you know that many teenagers spend a good deal of time venting about their problems without finding solutions?
Perhaps it’s because they don’t practice enough problem-solving at a younger age. This column is designed to give youngsters practice with making decisions. I invite you to share it with young people you know. Enjoy supporting someone you care about in this meaningful activity. It’s time well invested and only takes a few minutes.
Now, here’s this month’s situation:
I had an argument with a friend last week. Neither of us apologized and now I’m feeling awful. I miss seeing my friend. What can I do?
Claudia, age 11
I think you should really talk it over. Or if your friend is still mad, ask another friend to arrange a meeting so you CAN talk it over. That is what I think, but it may not work. I also think if you apologize, then your friend will understand.
Tommy, age 10
You could ask your mom or dad what to do because maybe they have had the same experience.
Adrian, age 9
Hello. My name is Alexis and I am here to help. I’ve found that we need to apologize and be able to laugh together about our problems. I’ve had at least three problems in life. Laughing helped. Now, to everyone out there, try to get as much information about your friends as you can so you’ll know not to bring up something that you will fight about.
Alexis, age 10
Talk to your friend about what happened. Then apologize. If she won’t accept your apology, you could say, “Please accept my apology. Come on. We were best friends and I don’t want our friendship to end. Please. I wouldn’t be happy at all and it would bother me.” Then if she still won’t talk, just say, “You think about what happened and think about our friendship.” Then you need to walk away.
Brittany, age 11
Tell your friend that it bothers you that you’re not friends any more. Or ask to be her partner sometime at recess. Another thing you can do is make a friendship necklace or bracelet. I’ve seen those and girls like them.
Zhane, age 12
TALKING IT OVER
A big thank you goes to all who submitted solutions. Readers, do you think it will take courage for Claudia to solve this problem? Why or why not? What could she do to feel brave if she decides to talk to her friend? Try discussing your ideas with someone–maybe a parent, grandparent, friend, brother, or sister. You’ll keep improving your decision-making skills as you talk.
Now, let’s look at the next concern.
Two girls called me a bad name at recess. This hurt my feelings. I don’t know what to do. They may keep calling me names because I haven’t said anything to stop them. I kind of thought they were friends.
Jacob, age 9
SUBMIT YOUR SOLUTION
If you’d like to suggest an idea for Claudia to try, email c/o The Suburban Times at firstname.lastname@example.org. Or, if you have a problem you’d like others to help solve, go to this same email address. Kids helping kids–it’s a super idea! See you next month.
Copyright 2007 Doris Hudson
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To read past columns:
– Being made fun of, or not performing well
– Having a friend cheat off your test
– Arguing with a friend